Get married in Church
“To have and to hold from this day forward”
Getting married is tremendously exciting – getting married in Church is even better!
When a man and a woman make their Marriage Vows to one another in Church, they are entering into a new way of life that is a Sacrament – God blesses their union and gives them help (or grace) to live into the serious promises and commitment their Vows express. Wedding rings are the part of this new way of life we can see – God’s presence in the marriage we cannot see but is still real and makes the difference that marks a Church Wedding out from all others.
If you live in the Parish of St Julians (or have a qualifying connection with the Parish Church*) you may well be able to get married at SS Julius and Aaron, after appropriate preparation, which will involved planning meetings with Fr David, the Calling of your Banns of Marriage and careful thought about what is right for you as you get married.
If you’d like to talk this through with the Parish Priest, please feel free to contact Fr David on 01633 258 046 or by email email@example.com
Congratulations on your engagement and every blessing in the future!
- for details on ‘qualifying connection’, contact Fr David
This Church has many striking features and is richly decorated with flowers throughout the year, except in Advent (December before Christmas) and Lent (mid-February to mid-April, depending on the date of Easter) when it is our custom here not to hold Weddings anyway.
Many couples feel they do not need to add more flowers in the Church but, if you would like some, pleases mention this to Fr David during your planning meetings.
We are pleased to make no charge for the flowers that are at the Altar and around the Church each week but any extra flowers you organise will be at your own expense.
Photographs & Video
Many Couples like to have a photographic (and often a video graphic) record of their Wedding Day which often includes aspects of the Wedding Ceremony.
Please discuss photography with Fr David at your planning meetings so that we can make arrangements that are appropriate and right for you.
To ensure a truly supportive and as-stress-free-as-possible atmosphere for the Bride and Groom we do all we can to enable the official photographer and any official videographer to work to best advantage and so as not to get in their way, we ask guests not to take photos and video footage during the Service.
A Wedding video recording is subject (for licensing purposes) to a fee which is reviewed annually by the Parochial Church Council.
A Church Wedding includes opportunity to reflect on the meaning of Marriage, inspired by readings from the Christian Scriptures aka The Bible and sometimes, from other appropriate sources.
if you are planning your Wedding at SS Julius and Aaron, you need to discuss suitable readings with Fr David so that we can choose what is just right for your Ceremony.
These are suitable Bible Readings:
1 Corinthians 13. 1-7
I may speak in tongues of men or of angels, but if I am without love, I am a sounding gong or a clanging cymbal. I may have the gift of prophecy, and know every hidden truth; I may have faith strong enough to move mountains; but if I have no love, I am nothing. I may dole out all I possess, or even give my body to be burnt, but if I have no love, I am none the better.
Love is patient; love is kind and envies no one. Love is never boastful, nor conceited, nor rude; never selfish, not quick to take offence. Love keeps no score of wrongs; does not gloat over other men’s sins, but delights in the truth. There is nothing love cannot face; there is no limit to its faith, its hope, and its endurance.
Colossians 3. 12-17
Put on then, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassion, kindness, lowliness, meekness, and patience, forbearing one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive. And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony. And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in the one body. And be thankful. Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly, as you teach and admonish one another in all wisdom, and as you sing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs with thankfulness in your hearts to God. And whatever you do, in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.
You will find other Bible reading possibilities at this website:
Suitable readings from other sources are
The Art of a Good Marriage
A good marriage must be created.
In the marriage the little things are the big things.
It is never being too old to hold hands.
It is remembering to say ‘I love you’ at least once a day.
It is never going to sleep angry.
It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives.
It is standing together and facing the world…..
It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family.
It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways.
It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.
It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow.
It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.
It is not only marrying the right person.
It is being the right partner.
Wilferd A. Peterson.
A Wedding Blessing
Now you will feel no rain, for each of you will be shelter for the other. Now you will feel no cold, for each of you will be warmth to the other. Now there will be no loneliness, for each of you will be companion to the other. Now you are two persons, but there is only one life before you. May beauty surround you both in the journey ahead and through all the years. May happiness be your companion and your days together be good and long upon the earth.
Thoughts on a Wedding
Treat yourselves and each other with respect, and remind yourselves often of what brought you together. Give the highest priority to the tenderness, gentleness and kindness that your connection deserves. When frustration, difficulties and fear assail your relationship, as they threaten all relationships at one time or another, remember to focus on what is right between you, not only the part which seems wrong. In this way, you can ride out the storms when clouds hide the face of the sun in your lives — remembering that even if you lose sight of it for a moment, the sun is still there. And if each of you takes responsibility for the quality of your life together, it will be marked by abundance and delight.
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